Quick question

[gayalondiel_bak]

This evening Gok Wan on his new show had a goth SF&F fan in for a makeover. I switched off after it became clear that we were going to hear that she was using her fannish behaviour to keep people - notably nice attractive boys - repelled. However he did this ghastly thing where all her (female) friends and family talked about how much she was trying and failing to hide and repel everyone and that being dramatic and goth/alternative must be a shield she puts up to hide her nice normal personality.  She seemed to be unaware that they thought that way.

 

Which made me think, I'm unaware of my friends thinking I'm putting up a front but what if I'm wrong? my personal feeling is that I'm more honestly myself now than when I was trying to act normally and look normal. But I'd be interested to know if someone thought otherwise.

 

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Comments

[tearelateddream.livejournal.com]

I can't imagine you any other way. I remember you were in "normal" mode when you went out to work once when I was there, and you seemed much more reserved/ less approachable than when you are being alternative-y (mm, yes, vocabulary clearly not improving post-midnight). So no, I'd say you do the opposite of using alternativeness (another blinder of a word, there) to repel people.

I saw the same programme, and I rather suspect that it was more a case of being surrounded by singularly closed-minded and unimaginative types than her purposefully repelling evryone by being "weird".

I will go before I commit any other crimes against the English language :p

[gayalondiel.livejournal.com]

(You can say "when you were being alternative". It's not brilliant grammar but it's standard in the subculture.) :)

Interesting that you saw my office wear that way. I'd say you're right, although I'm working on an office acceptable style that still has my personal touches so it's not quite such a mask.