BPD and the (non-)neutral expression

If you can get past the adverts, both on the page and the author pointing out that they've written a book every second sentence, this brief article makes clear something very relevant to me, and something that I struggle to articulate (partly because it makes me sound like a horrible needy co-dependent moron. Which I am, so hey).

Otherwise, if you detach emotionally from the situation, the BP will interpret your “calmness” and detachment as judgment or criticism. Additionally, they will likely consider you untrustworthy to validate their emotional states. What I mean by this is that if they are feeling so much emotional pain that they are dysregulated what they are really trying to do (regardless of the content what they say) is to communicate that pain to you. If they’re “dying in pain” and you’re detaching and calm, they feel they can’t come to you with the problem.

I do however balk slightly at people being labelled Bps and non-Bps. I am more than the sum of my symptoms.