Quick question

[gayalondiel_bak]

This evening Gok Wan on his new show had a goth SF&F fan in for a makeover. I switched off after it became clear that we were going to hear that she was using her fannish behaviour to keep people - notably nice attractive boys - repelled. However he did this ghastly thing where all her (female) friends and family talked about how much she was trying and failing to hide and repel everyone and that being dramatic and goth/alternative must be a shield she puts up to hide her nice normal personality.  She seemed to be unaware that they thought that way.

 

Which made me think, I'm unaware of my friends thinking I'm putting up a front but what if I'm wrong? my personal feeling is that I'm more honestly myself now than when I was trying to act normally and look normal. But I'd be interested to know if someone thought otherwise.

 

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Comments

[marysutherland.livejournal.com]

I think most unusual/unconventional clothing of any kind, in which I'd include dressing as a Goth, is trying to express a part of your own personality. That's a thing that some people, like me, find hard to do. Part of me would like to dye my hair pink, but I also worry "but what would people say?" I think you have had the courage to decide to explore a lot of different aspects of your personality via gendered clothes and that's positive for you (and interesting for those of us who see you or your piccies!)

[gayalondiel.livejournal.com]

I think bleaching my hair in streaks was the decision I took longest to take, and I have screwed it up on occasion, but I've mostly had great comments. It's fascinating how non-natural colours are seeping into the mainstream, so if you want pink hair get some Directions or Manic Panic semipermanents and give it a whirl! The worst that can happen is that you'd need to wash it a lot to get it out...

One of the oddest things has been getting over my father's disapproval of my appearance. Accepting that he's never going to like it has been so freeing that I can face up to anyone else's opinion. My current rule of thumb is to plan a new mod every time he harrumphs at my appearance.

[didiusjulianus.livejournal.com]

But then you are still reacting to him, albeit in a different way, rather than just ignoring him and planning a mod, or a haircut, or a day wearing flouncy skirts and peach knitwear, or whatever else might take your fancy whether or not it fits in with whatever else you normally do or don't wear/do/think or feel. And that would be truly liberated.