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[gayalondiel_bak]

I wish I cared about stuff at the moment. I wish I cared about fandom politics and sexuality/gender issues and even the sodding government sodding everything up, and fic that is awesome and the latest facebook shitstorm/"improvement" and what's doing the rounds on Tumblr and all that. I wish I cared about writing stories and even just watching fandom shows. I wish I did.

 

Thing is, this is how I know my illness is much, much worse than it has been in the past. I've never walled myself off from fandom like this before. I have been and am, really, really, really ill. Too ill to work, too ill to be able to go outside the flat in a bad day. Just too ill. I realised doing my DLA form today that I don't conceptualise myself as ill, just as someone who can't cope. But I am, actually, frighteningly, ill enough to continue with a behaviour which could stop my heart, right there in an instant, because I just can't stop doing it.

 

I fear that there's no coming back from this. I don't know how to get back to fandom. I feel like it's just built up this huge wall of terror and loss and if I make a chink the whole thing will fall down on me. Knowing that I've probably not been missed by more than one or two people makes it easier to stay away. I'm scared to come back and be rejected and I'm scared to try and realise I can't do it. All I think about is my illness and I don't want that in my writing, I don't want to see other people writing about it and fucking it up, I don't want to write the next chapter of something and realise no-one cares.

 

But I want, so much, to come home.

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Comments

[febobe.livejournal.com]

What has helped me has been to realise that this is something I do for ME and nobody else, no matter what. And in my case, I've found writing about illness so therapeutic that I've virtually built my fandom career out of it...it's not the end of the world if you write about it. That said, I realise what works for me may not be what works for you. Just saying there are many possible solutions, and you can find what it is that works for you. <3 Don't give up hope, sweetie.

From one sickie to another,
Febobe :)

[frodobaggins252.livejournal.com]

**tight hugs**

I'm sorry your illness is so very bad right now. I could say all sorts of supportive things and such, but I know it wouldn't help and might actually hurt, so I will just say that I miss you when you're not around, I miss seeing you involved in your fandoms, and I will always hope for the day when you can return to those things you love so.

**more tight hugs and kitty snuggles from Phoebe and MereCat**

If you want to put a toe into LotR fandom again, in a very gentle way, check out this tiny story from Shirebound.



ETA: Oops, forgot the URL:

http://shirebound.livejournal.com/1981021.html

[i-o-r-h-a-e-l.livejournal.com]

*hugs tight*

[caffienekitty]

It's good to see you posting again, even though it's about painful stuff you're dealing with. There's no need to pressure yourself, you've got enough to be going on with, and fandom will be here whenever you are ready to get back in. Take care of yourself first. Bright thoughts and hopes.

[atreic.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

[emperor]

*hugs* take good care of yourself, and fandom will still be there for you when you're better.

[adaese.livejournal.com]

Fandom will still be here for you, as and when you find the necessary spoons.

[marysutherland.livejournal.com]

Hugs - this tiny corner of Sherlock fandom has missed you, but if it's not right for you to come back yet, that's fine. Writing is hard work and there may be better uses of your energy at the moment. But if you want to come back, we'd be glad to see you and we'd do our best to help you feel comfortable in it again.